Walking is one of the simplest, most accessible ways to create that pause—without forcing reflection or demanding anything more than forward motion.

There’s something about steady movement that gently interrupts autopilot. Your body falls into rhythm. Your breathing evens out. The mental noise softens. Without trying to “fix” anything, you find yourself a little more present than you were five minutes ago.

And in that small shift, possibility opens.

Why walking creates mental space

When we’re stressed, rushed, or overloaded, our habits tend to run the show. We reach for what’s familiar, not because it’s what we want most, but because it’s what’s easiest. Alcohol often lives in that space—an automatic response to the end of the day, social pressure, or emotional fatigue.

A late-afternoon or early-evening walk changes the pace of that conversation.

As the body moves forward, the mind has room to catch up. Thoughts that felt urgent begin to loosen. Feelings become clearer, less tangled. Many people notice that what they thought was a craving is actually something else entirely: a need to decompress, to transition, to breathe, to be alone with their thoughts for a few minutes.

The pause is where moderation lives

Moderation isn’t about white-knuckling your way through temptation. It’s about having enough space to ask a gentler question: What do I really want right now?

That question is hard to access when everything is moving fast. Walking slows the moment without shutting it down. It offers a buffer between impulse and action—a place where choice becomes possible again.

Sometimes that choice still includes a drink. Sometimes it doesn’t. What matters is that it’s conscious, not automatic.

Walking as a practice, not a goal

This isn’t about fitness metrics or step counts. It’s about using movement as a reset button you can press anytime.

• A short walk after work to mark the end of the day.
• A walk before dinner to clear your head.
• A loop around the block when cravings feel loud and your thoughts feel crowded.

No tracking. No rules. Just forward motion and a little breathing room.

Miles for Moderation: practicing the pause, step by step

That’s the spirit behind Miles for Moderation—a month-long invitation to practice pausing through movement.

Each mile becomes a moment of transition. Each walk creates space to step out of habit and into awareness. Each pause makes room for a better choice, whatever that looks like for you.

You’re not walking away from anything. You’re walking toward clarity, steadiness, and self-trust—one step at a time.

If you’re curious about how walking and mindful drinking can support each other, and how a community can make that practice easier and more meaningful, Miles for Moderation offers a simple place to begin.

Because sometimes, all it takes is a pause—and a path—to change everything.

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Rather than reflecting quick impressions or early-stage experiences, the survey captures the voices of people who have stayed engaged—and who are seeing real results.

Taken together, these findings place MM among a small number of programs that can point to both high engagement and measurable behavior change—without requiring abstinence as a starting point.

Who Participated in the 2025 Moderation Management Member Survey

Survey respondents skewed older, with a mean age of 56. More than two-thirds of participants were aged 50 or above. Women made up roughly two-thirds of respondents, a pattern consistent with prior Moderation Management surveys.

Members came from 36 U.S. states and six additional countries, though the majority currently live in the United States. Importantly, most respondents were not new to the program: more than two-thirds had been participating in MM for at least one year. This means the findings largely reflect sustained engagement and longer-term experience, rather than first impressions.

Another notable insight: for more than half of respondents, Moderation Management was the first program they tried to address concerns about alcohol. For others, MM followed experiences with abstinence-based programs or outpatient treatment. Together, these responses highlight MM’s role as both an entry point and an alternative within the broader recovery landscape.

What Members Say Helps Most

Quantitative results from the Moderation Management member survey show exceptionally strong ratings across MM’s core offerings. Members overwhelmingly reported that MM:

• Provides a supportive, non-judgmental community
• Increases mindfulness and self-awareness around drinking
• Offers practical, usable tools and resources
• Supports accountability to personally defined goals

Across these areas, between 84% and 93% of respondents said MM was “somewhat” or “very much” helpful, with average ratings above 3.2 on a 4-point scale.

The qualitative responses explain why those ratings are so high. Again and again, members emphasized the emotional safety of MM’s community:

“The unconditional support and friendship has completely changed my life for the better.”

“Being able to speak openly about drinking without judgment is incredibly calming, helpful, and validating. It gives you the strength to make real changes in your life.”

MM’s virtual meetings emerged as a cornerstone of the member experience. Participants described meetings as a source of structure, accountability, and motivation—often using fitness metaphors to explain their value:

“I view MM meetings like going to the gym; it’s where I work out my moderation muscles.”

Measurable Changes in Drinking and Well-Being

The data from the 2025 Moderation Management member survey show a strong association between MM participation and clear, sustained behavioral change. Since becoming involved with MM:

• 95% of respondents reduced their alcohol consumption
• 43% reduced drinking by 50% or more
• 85% reported being less likely to engage in harmful drinking
• The majority reported meaningful improvements in health, sleep, and relationships

In behavioral health research, results like these are notable: particularly because they come from a population that is largely older and long-engaged, rather than newly enrolled.

Members’ personal accounts bring these numbers to life. Many described a shift away from mindless or compulsive drinking toward more intentional, informed choices:

“Joining MM completely changed my relationship with alcohol. I was able to go from weekly binge drinking to long-term moderation. It’s been a huge improvement in my life, health, and personal relationships.”

“When I started tracking, it was a shock to see how much I drank. Over time, I reduced from over 50 drinks a week to about 10.”

Others spoke more broadly about improved mental health, stronger relationships, and increased self-confidence:

“It’s made a huge difference in how I live my life and how I engage with others.”

For a subset of respondents, the impact of Moderation Management was described as profound—and even life-saving:

“I probably wouldn’t be alive if it wasn’t for MM.”

“It saved my marriage. I will never go back to my old lifestyle.”

Why Moderation Matters

One of the clearest findings in the Moderation Management member survey is the importance of MM’s moderation-friendly, non-absolutist approach. Nearly 90% of respondents cited moderation—rather than abstinence—as a top reason for choosing MM.

Qualitative responses make clear that this flexibility is about being met where you are, without pressure or shame:

“MM showed me that I didn’t have to choose an all-or-nothing approach.”

“It was the first place where moderation felt possible—and legitimate.”

Importantly, several participants noted that MM supported either long-term moderation or a gradual transition toward abstinence, depending on individual needs—without rigid rules or judgment.

“MM was a great segue for me into the abstinence that I am now maintaining… I really appreciate that there are no hard and fast ‘rules’ like in some organizations. The flexibility of MM’s approach really works for me.”

At a time when public conversations about alcohol often default to extremes, MM’s data show that moderation is not only viable: it’s effective for a wide range of adults, including those who have struggled in abstinence-only settings. For some, it’s also the ideal pathway to abstinence: 10% of respondents ended up abstaining completely.

What These Findings Point To

Taken together, the 2025 Moderation Management member survey underscores a simple but powerful truth: when people are offered compassion, practical tools, and autonomy, meaningful change is possible. For hundreds of members, MM isn’t just a program—it’s a sustainable framework for building a healthier, more intentional relationship with alcohol. And at a broader level, the survey offers something rare: clear evidence that a moderation-based, nonjudgmental approach can deliver lasting, meaningful change at scale.

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So, you’re nearly two weeks into this Dryuary thing, and all the things you’re reading about the Dryuary benefits are just not happening for you. Believe me, you’re not alone.

The media claims that we’ll sleep better, lose weight, repair our broken relationships, think more clearly and have more energy when we take 30 days off from drinking. Yet you’re still not sleeping (maybe even sleeping worse), still not losing weight (maybe even gaining it), even snarkier with your loved ones, and are still walking around in a pea-soup brain fog.

What gives? Why the heck are we not seeing all these miraculous benefits of Dryuary?!

The answers aren’t simple, but let’s explore this a little. Dryuary expectations don’t unfold the same way for everyone. The benefits will come, but not all at once, and definitely not always within the first couple of weeks.

Sleep: Why It Can Get Worse Before It Gets Better

Sleep—ahhhh, the elusive 8 solid hours.

First of all, SO many factors affect our sleep, not just alcohol. But when we remove alcohol from the equation, our body is going to wonder what the heck is going on. We’ve been using booze to help numb our bodies into sleep-submission, and now we can’t GET to sleep. Even though our sleep quality wasn’t the best while we were drinking, it may not feel much better so far. The reality is that it takes time for the body to believe that we’re going to let it fully restore itself overnight. Our brains have become accustomed to the cycle of alcohol-induced sedation followed by the 3am cortisol spike as our body works to rid itself of the very toxins that helped us get to sleep in the first place. Now, we’re asking it to figure it out without that chemical support.

We might need some help to get us started, but let’s be patient. Keep trying different things to support your sleep right now—Sleepytime tea, a warm bath, reading instead of scrolling before bed, lots of fresh air, and exercise. Try some sleep supplements, meditate, white noise… whatever it takes. None of these will hurt, and alone or in combination, they can only help.

Weight Loss: Why the Scale Might Not Budge (Yet)

Another Dryuary promise: weight loss. And yet the scale isn’t moving, or our jeans feel even tighter than they did before! Why the heck are we doing this to ourselves? Remember, you were ingesting literally hundreds of empty calories in the form of alcohol, and your body now needs to figure out where it’s going to get that extra energy from now. Even if we continue to eat well, our incredibly sophisticated physiological machine realizes it either needs to ask for more calories in some other form or hang on to the ones we do give it.

You might crave sugar to replace the sugar in the alcohol or carbs for added short-term energy. So, here’s a tip: let your body have what it needs right now. And if you can figure out a healthy substitute, even better. Think fruit for sugar cravings, nuts for salty cravings, rice instead of pasta, and avocados for healthy fats. But if you’re reaching for more chocolate, cookies, or chips, understand what your body is asking for and why. Even if you don’t make healthy food choices right now, you’re responding to the needs that eliminating alcohol has created. You can clean up your diet later. Right now, give yourself some grace.

Mood Changes: When the “Light and Airy” Feeling Doesn’t Show Up

And how about our moods? Why aren’t we experiencing that light and airy feeling we expected when we stopped drinking? We might even be feeling a bit sad, or grumpy, or just plain blah. Again, it takes time for our brains to catch up with the changes we’re making this month. Many of us use alcohol to deal with negative moods, and now we’re left to face those—head-on—without the ability to escape. What are we to do with these feelings when we’re so used to suppressing them?

Journaling is one tactic many use. Write it down and process it as it comes out the tip of your pen (or fingers if you use a keyboard). Talk it out with a trusted friend or family member. Sometimes speaking the thoughts out loud makes it easier to process them. Better still, talk to a professional. These feelings came from somewhere, and understanding that can help us make sense of them. The one thing you can’t do is minimize or ignore those feelings. They are part of who you are, and part of Dryuary is getting back to who we were before drinking became a normal part of our lives. Find your authentic self again, and learn to love yourself—warts and all. That’s where you find the light and airiness you’re looking for.

Brain Fog: Supporting Your Mind as It Recalibrates

Finally, the brain fog. How and when will we start to think clearly again? There is no better time to treat ourselves with kindness and compassion. Get curious about what’s happening in your body and brain, and start thinking of ways you can support it. If it’s rest you need, take a break. Lie down in the afternoon, even if only for 15 minutes. Be still and breathe, and let your mind and body restore itself. Or, stimulate your brain in a way you haven’t for a long time. Get back to that guitar you picked at years ago and never kept up with. Or finish that painting you started before your kids were born, and hang it on a wall for everyone to see the fruits of your creative efforts. Our brain is a wonderful, amazing machine, and it wants to give us everything we need. Sometimes we just need to give it a chance.

Reframing Dryuary Expectations

Here’s the thing. Dryuary can feel like a punishment: like we’re depriving ourselves of alcohol because we have been overdoing it for far too long. We jump into this month-long sentence a little begrudgingly, feeling like we need to prove to ourselves (or someone else) that we can do it. But white-knuckling only gets us so far, and willpower eventually runs out.

When we don’t see all those health benefits everyone talks about right away, it can be discouraging. But if we approach this month as a gift to our mind, body, and soul, wrapped in self-love and compassion, we stand a much better chance of really feeling all the good things that a month-long break from alcohol can give us.

If Dryuary feels harder—or more complicated—than you expected, you don’t have to figure it out alone. Moderation Management offers tools, meetings, Kickstart courses, and a supportive community for people who want a more flexible, compassionate relationship with alcohol, during Dryuary and beyond.

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When people think about how donations support Moderation Management, they often imagine turning points: the big decision, the breakthrough moment, the before-and-after story.

But most change doesn’t happen that way.

At Moderation Management, progress is built quietly—through steady access, familiar faces, and a structure people can return to when motivation wavers or life gets complicated. That’s what donor support makes possible, day after day, all year long.

Here’s what a year inside MM really looks like.

Months 1-3: Showing Up With Questions

Many members arrive at MM unsure of what they want—or what’s even possible. Some are questioning long-standing habits for the first time. Others are returning after trying something else that didn’t quite fit.

What they need most at this stage isn’t answers. It’s a place to land.

Donor support keeps that place open: meetings that run on schedule, resources that are easy to access, and a tone that chooses curiosity over shame. For many members, this is their first experience of talking openly about alcohol without being told what their end goal should be.

Months 4-6: Building Rhythm

As weeks turn into months, participation becomes less about crisis and more about routine. People start to recognize names and voices. They begin to notice patterns in their own behavior. Small adjustments replace dramatic resolutions.

This is where Moderation Management does some of its most important work—and where donor impact is least visible from the outside.

Consistency takes infrastructure. It takes trained facilitators, reliable technology, and coordination behind the scenes. Donations sustain that rhythm, enabling members to return not just once but repeatedly as change slowly takes shape.

Months 7-9: Staying Engaged When Life Gets Busy

This period can be a stress test, especially if it coincides with summer. Travel, social events, disrupted routines—all of these things can make it harder to stay mindful and intentional.

Members who remain engaged during this period often describe MM as a stabilizing presence: not demanding attention, but available when needed. The option to drop into a meeting, revisit tools, or reconnect with the community can make the difference between slipping back into old patterns and pausing to choose differently.

That kind of flexibility is intentional—and donor-supported. It allows Moderation Management to meet people where they are, without pressure to meet standards or punishment for inconsistency.

Months 10-12: Reflecting on What’s Changed

By the end of their first year, many members report meaningful shifts. Not just in how much they drink, but in how they think, relate, and care for themselves.

Survey data show that most participants reduce their drinking over time, and many cut back significantly. But equally important are the less measurable changes: greater self-trust, improved relationships, and the sense that moderation—or mindful choice—is a skill that can be practiced, not a pass/fail test.

For some, MM becomes a long-term part of their wellness landscape. For others, it serves as a bridge to a different path. Donor impact at Moderation Management makes room for both outcomes, without judgment.

Why This Kind of Support Matters

A year inside Moderation Management isn’t flashy. It doesn’t hinge on dramatic transformations or rigid milestones. Its power lies in continuity—in being there steadily, so people don’t have to start over every time life shifts.

That continuity exists because donors make it possible.

Your generosity supports the slow, durable work of change: the meetings that happen even when attendance is modest, the resources that remain available long after the initial surge of motivation, and the community that people return to because it feels steady and real.

Thank you for sustaining the kind of impact that lasts.

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The holidays make it far too easy to default to the same bottle-of-wine exchange. But more and more people are rethinking their drinking—cutting back, taking breaks, or simply wanting options that don’t revolve around alcohol. If you’d like to give something thoughtful and supportive, you’ve got plenty of good alternatives.

Here’s a curated list of 12 alcohol-free gift ideas that hit the sweet spot: celebratory, useful, and welcome in any home—no explanation required.

1. Alcohol-Free Spirits Worth Savoring

AF isn’t a compromise anymore. Brands like No More Cocktails, Spiritless, Lyre’s, and Wilderton craft complex, grown-up flavors that actually feel like a treat. Pair one bottle with a couple of elegant glasses and a handwritten recipe card.

Why it’s great: Still feels like a “host gift,” just without tomorrow’s regret.

2. Fancy Mixers for Elevated Mocktails

Think small-batch tonics, yuzu sodas, bitter aperitivo syrups, or artisanal ginger beer. Bundle three or four to make a tasting set.

Why it’s great: A low-stakes way for someone to experiment without having to shop around.

3. Wellness Ritual Kits

A ritual is a gift of atmosphere. Assemble your own or buy a kit with items like candles, bath salts, or grounding cards.

Why it’s great: Supports routines that don’t rely on a drink to unwind.

4. A Beautiful Notebook

A well-made journal or guided reflection book gives people a place to track goals, decompress, or simply clear their head. Choose something that feels substantial—clothbound, good paper, a tactile cover.

Why it’s great: Encourages mindful moments that often replace automatic “pour a glass of something” habits.

5. Subscription to a Meditation or Sleep App

Calm, Headspace, Insight Timer Plus—any of these are a quiet lifesaver during holiday chaos.

Why it’s great: A digital gift that creates real-world calm.

6. Stress-Relief Tools That Don’t Feel Cheesy

Weighted blankets, acupressure mats, heat wraps, or a sleek handheld massager. Choose quality over gimmick.

Why it’s great: These soothe frazzled nervous systems without the “relax with a drink” script.

7. A Local Experience Gift

Cooking classes, pottery workshops, botanical-garden passes, museum memberships, guided hikes—anything that gets someone out of the house and doing something new.

Why it’s great: Experiences create memories, not hangovers.

8. Practical Moderation Tools

Thoughtfully designed tools like Pourtions Just Right measuring glasses or ShameOver’s stigma-free resources help people build awareness without judgment. Simple, useful, and quietly empowering.

Why it’s great: Supports mindful choice without pressure or preachiness.

9. Coffee or Tea Gifts for the People Who Take Their Sips Seriously

Single-origin beans, loose-leaf tea samplers, a small electric kettle with temperature control. This hits the same ritualistic pleasure zone as a nightly drink.

Why it’s great: It leans into the sensory reward of a beverage—minus the alcohol.

10. A Cozy “Unwind” Box

Slippers, soft socks, herbal teas, a little chocolate, a book light—think hygge with intention.

Why it’s great: Supports the feeling people often chase with alcohol: comfort.

11. A Craft or Creative Kit

Watercolor sets, embroidery, candle-making kits, or even puzzles that are genuinely pretty. Alcohol thrives in boredom; creativity kills it.

Why it’s great: Offers a rewarding evening activity that nudges drinking off center stage.

12. Moderation-Boosting Books

It can be difficult to find literature that supports a person’s desire to “cut down.” No worries! We’ve done the searching for you! Check out MM’s Book Corner.

Why it’s great: Perfect for book-lovers who want information and encouragement in their moderation journey.

How to Choose the Right Alcohol-Free Gift

You don’t need to announce, “I didn’t get you wine because of moderation.” Instead, pick something that reflects who they are:

• Do they love trying new flavors? AF spirits + mixers.
• Do they get overwhelmed at year-end? Wellness or stress-relief gifts.
• Do they crave experiences over stuff? Classes or museum passes.
• Do they love a nightly ritual? Tea, mocktail kits, or creative projects.

The best alcohol-free gifts don’t feel “sober.” They feel intentional.

If in doubt, shop the MM Marketplace for more options!

A Holiday Season That Leaves Everyone Feeling Good

Moderation doesn’t require speeches or disclaimers—just better options. A thoughtful alcohol-free gift shows you pay attention, respect people’s goals, and want them to enjoy the season without pressure.

If you’re exploring moderation yourself, consider this your permission slip: ditch the default wine bottle and give something that actually feels good to receive.

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Big resolutions get all the attention this time of year—right up until February, when they quietly evaporate. The truth is, most of us don’t need another life overhaul. We need proof we’re already doing more things right than we believe.

This kind of year-end reflection shifts the spotlight to small wins: the tiny, forgettable choices that actually shape behavior change. Especially around alcohol, stress, and emotional bandwidth, these micro-moments are the ones that build confidence.

Here are ten worth celebrating.

1. You chose an alcohol-free drink twice this week

You didn’t overhaul your life. You just grabbed a sparkling water instead of wine. That’s a win because it shows intentionality, not perfection.

2. You paused before pouring

Five seconds of “Do I want this or just need a break?” is a massive skill builder. This is mindful drinking in real time—not some theoretical practice.

3. You left a gathering before it got messy

Irish goodbyes can be a smart move. Bowing out early protects your energy, and it’s a smart boundary in a season when overstimulation is basically guaranteed.

4. You logged a feeling—even once

Opening your tracker, writing “tired” or “anxious,” and closing the app (or notebook) is still emotional awareness. Consistency comes later; honesty comes first.

5. You made plans that didn’t revolve around alcohol

A morning walk with a friend. A movie. A coffee date. You created a pocket of the holiday season where drinking wasn’t the default.

6. You built a tiny delay into your evenings

Maybe you started dinner before pouring a drink. Maybe you stretched for two minutes. That sliver of time proves you can interrupt autopilot.

7. You asked someone for support

A text to a friend. A quick mention in an MM meeting. A question in MM’s Facebook group. Reaching out is a quiet act of courage—and a sign you’re not trying to muscle through alone.

8. You swapped a stress ritual for a soothing one

Tea instead of wine. A shower instead of scrolling. A walk instead of a second pour. The replacement doesn’t need to be profound; it just needs to exist.

9. You forgave yourself for a rough night

A compassionate reset beats a shame spiral every time. Self-kindness is a small win that has outsize impact on long-term change.

10. You noticed you feel “not enough”—and didn’t chase it with alcohol

Recognizing that end-of-year pressure triggers old habits is emotional literacy. You named the moment instead of drowning it out.

Let This Be the Reflection You Actually Need

If you only measure change by dramatic resolutions, you’ll miss the quieter successes that are already reshaping your relationship with alcohol—and your relationship with yourself.

Take five minutes, reread this list, and mentally check off everything that applied to you this year. Odds are, you’ve stacked up far more small wins than you realize.

And if you want to carry this feeling forward, explore more MM tools, or join the Dryuary Kickstart or Self-guided Kickstart courses anytime, to help you build a year ahead, rooted in confidence—not pressure.

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Even people who have been most successful with moderating their alcohol use often struggle when it comes to traveling. When that vacation mindset kicks in, it’s not uncommon for all of the normal wellness routines and standards to go out the window whether we’re talking about diet, exercise, or drink. Add in the social elements, norms that suggest airport beers are acceptable at 9am, and sometimes even an all-inclusive drink package, and it’s easy to see why even the best intended might struggle with mindful drinking on vacation.

Many of the clients I’ve worked with on moderation craft certain special exceptions when it comes to traveling and tweaking their own personal moderation guidelines. During normal stretches of the year they stay within more restrictive guardrails but allow for loosened-up rules for special occasions, whether a birthday, holiday weekend, or big trip.

Even then, they still often see where it’s necessary to use caution and a certain level of mindfulness and intentionality around their consumption, whether it be to avoid full-day hangovers or to prevent any more problematic consequences that may have driven the need for more moderate drinking practices to begin with.

Changed-up routines, social expectations, and that lax holiday or vacation mindset create the perfect conditions to go off the rails even with the best intentions. A common theme that presents in therapy sessions around moderation is that of the pitfalls that come along with overconfidence and lack of preparation when it comes to dealing with special circumstances. Suddenly, it’s as though the overindulgence, the blackout, the blowup fight with your partner after a few too many, the throbbing headache, or the feeling of regret the next day, just snuck up on you with no warning. The dreaded setback, the lapse, that although might serve as an opportunity to learn from, perhaps could have been prevented.

If you’ve been in the Moderation Management community for any amount of time, you know the drill. “Rules” aren’t as rigid as those you might find in abstinence-based support circles. It’s up to YOU (the moderator) to figure out what works and doesn’t work for you. And although what works for you might mean a loosening of the typical personal standards for drinking while traveling, it can be helpful to be prepared for your vacation by looking ahead, writing down some goals, and thinking about what mindful drinking on vacation might look like for you this holiday season or for whatever travels you might have planned.

Staying Moderate: Mindful Drinking on Vacation

Here you’ll find some ideas that I hope will help you strike a balance between moderation and indulgence when special occasions might have you wanting more than usual. Since everyone’s moderation path looks a little different, take what works or modify in ways you think work best for your situation.

Plan ahead.

When working with clients on moderation, we almost always discuss what a moderation plan might look like before traveling. It’s one thing to have general intentions and another to be truly intentional. Define what moderation will look like for you on your trip. How, if at all, will moderation look different while away? Do you have any hard rules or limits? Write it out or talk it out with a supportive partner or friend.

Start drinking later.

One of the easiest things you can do to reduce the total number of drinks you might have in a day or in an evening is to start drinking later. As long as you aren’t making up for the later start by binging when you do start, waiting a while naturally leads to decreased consumption. You might consider skipping the day drinks and waiting until 6 or 7pm instead of 5pm.

Continue tracking drinks.

Many people practicing moderation track their drinks in their regular day-to-day lives but decide not to count when on vacation. Even if you decide to go over your normal moderation limits, it’s never a bad idea to keep up with the awareness by honestly logging your drinks as part of mindful drinking on vacation.

Space drinks out and take breaks.

Although not a new trick, spacing out drinks by having water, a mocktail, or a non-alcoholic beer can be even more necessary when out for extended fun.

Skip the airport & airplane drinks.

A common ritual for travelers who like to drink is that of starting the fun the moment you get through security. Although this is something I’ll admit that I have participated in once or twice, those airport cocktails can cause a crash and have you feeling less fresh when you get to your final destination. You’ll thank yourself later if you opt to hydrate and rest, saving the fun for later.

Be aware of your alcohol percentages.

When caught up in the shuffle and ordering unfamiliar drinks from unfamiliar places, it’s a little bit more challenging to be mindful of exactly what it is you’re drinking or how strong those drinks are. Opt for lower alcohol percentage drinks when you know you’ll be out for a while and don’t hesitate to ask the bartender to keep the liquor in your cocktails at a measured pour.

Think twice about having that nightcap.

It’s rare the day after drinking that you wish you had drank just one more. When the day is nearing an end, pause for a moment to ask yourself how you want to feel in the morning.

Plan for social influence.

People often share with me that moderation limits are thrown off by someone in the party ordering drinks or buying a round of shots. When caught up in the moment, it can be hard to think on your toes and to make a decision most closely aligned with your goals. Imagine the scenarios that might occur and think in advance about how you might want to respond. It is always okay to turn down a drink that you did not want. Additionally, assuming the people you are with are supportive, it is sometimes helpful to tell them your intentions when it comes to drinking in order to prevent the unsolicited drinks to begin with.

Do you struggle to moderate on vacation? Or in general? Working with a moderation-friendly therapist listed in Moderation Management’s therapist directory can help you take a look at your relationship with alcohol and assist in building tools, structure, and accountability for healthier drinking and a healthier life.

This article was written by Joel Schmidt, MA, LMHC, a licensed mental health counselor in Florida and South Carolina. He provides virtual sessions and specializes in disordered anxiety, harm reduction approaches for drinking, and helping people deal with a fear of flying.

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Every story starts with a single spark. Meet the people who turned theirs into something brighter—and let their light inspire yours. As part of Moderation Management’s Grateful Giving 2025 series, Clinical Director Madeleine Zimmerman shares her moderation success story—a journey rooted in harm reduction, compassion, and choice.

Growing Up in a Culture of Drinking

I grew up in Wisconsin—the #1 binge-drinking state in the U.S.—where alcohol is woven into almost every gathering. It’s social, cultural, and often generational.

Alcohol has always been complicated. It can bring people together to celebrate, to mourn, to connect—and it can also create distance, tension, and harm. Both can be true at the same time.

A Wake-Up Call That Changed Everything

In 2015, I experienced a moment that changed the course of my life. After a night out with friends, I drove when I shouldn’t have and crashed my car. No one was hurt, but I was arrested for operating a vehicle while intoxicated.

It was a painful wake-up call that pushed me to look more honestly at my relationship with alcohol, my environment, and the patterns that had been modeled for me. I chose to take a break from drinking, began therapy, and started to take accountability—not because I was “broken,” but because I wanted to understand myself more fully.

Healing Through Honesty, Not Shame

Still, the aftermath was heavy. I carried deep shame and self-doubt, convinced I had to earn my way back to being a good person. In the beginning, that process was entirely shame-based — I thought feeling awful was proof that I cared. But through therapy and community support, that belief began to shift. My therapist helped me see that shame doesn’t heal; it paralyzes. What actually fosters change is curiosity, compassion, and connection. Over time, I learned to approach myself with honesty instead of judgment—and that shift transformed how I understand growth, accountability, and healing.

How Harm Reduction Shaped My Path

That experience shaped everything that came next. As I grew into my career as a therapist, I became passionate about harm reduction—about helping people explore their relationships with alcohol and other substances in ways that honor autonomy, context, and humanity. I wanted others to have what I had: a therapist who could walk beside them as they chipped away at shame and rebuilt confidence through self-honesty and care.

Finding Moderation Management

That’s what led me to Moderation Management (MM). I was searching for resources I could offer clients who didn’t resonate with the “all-or-nothing” approach that dominates many peer-support and recovery spaces — programs that only talked about abstinence, when that simply isn’t the right or realistic path for everyone.

When I found MM, I immediately recognized a community that shared my personal and professional values: that people deserve options, that change exists on a spectrum, and that moderation is a valid, evidence-informed, and meaningful path toward well-being.

My Role as MM’s First Clinical Director

Today, as MM’s first Clinical Director, I’m focused on strengthening this movement — building a national network of helping professionals and practitioners, expanding our funding opportunities through grants and private donors, and ensuring moderation and harm reduction have a respected and visible place within the broader landscape of health care.

Why I Support Moderation Management During Grateful Giving 2025

Your support makes this possible. When you donate to MM, you’re helping reimagine what “recovery” can mean—expanding the conversation to include curiosity, compassion, and choice.

This November, during Grateful Giving Month, I’m celebrating the community that helped me find the way back to my inner soul. I give back to Moderation Management with gratitude for the freedom, and loving peace, it finally gave me.

Your support helps MM expand harm reduction resources and make moderation a visible, evidence-informed option nationwide.

Will you join me in showing your gratitude?

Donate once: https://moderation.org/donations
Or become a monthly supporter: https://moderation.org/donate-monthly

Your support keeps Moderation Management’s meetings, tools, and compassionate community available to everyone who needs them.

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Every story starts with a single spark. Meet the people who turned theirs into something brighter—and let their light inspire yours. Here, Emily Sheridan shares her story as part of Moderation Management’s Grateful Giving 2025 series.

Finding Moderation Management: A Search That Changed Everything

It was the spring of 2022, and a close friend had just had a difficult drinking moment during her bachelorette party. On the car ride home, she mentioned the word “moderation” to me. That one word stuck. I’d been thinking for years—probably eight—that I was drinking too much. I’d (half-heartedly) tried Dryuary the year before, and at 43, the hangovers were starting to feel impossible. So when I got home, I typed “moderation” into Facebook and found the Moderation Management group.

At first, I just lurked. I read stories from people who sounded like me—functional, but struggling with balance and mindful drinking. I found a community that was accepting, compassionate, and genuinely interested in helping each other find healthier relationships with alcohol. That sense of belonging made me stay.

A Wake-Up Call and the Start of Real Change

In the fall of 2022, I had one of those classic wake-up calls. I drank too much at a wedding, ended up in a big fight with my husband, and was so hungover the next day we had to extend our hotel stay. That moment really hit me. From there, I started experimenting—no shots, one drink an hour—and it helped reduce the big binge moments, even if my daily drinking still needed work.

By 2023, I made my first donation to MM during Grateful Giving—Mary, the Executive Director at the time, said, “just the cost of a bottle of wine.” It felt symbolic. I hadn’t had a hangover in a year. My goal became simple: not to drink so much that I’d feel like I had to lie to my doctor. I usually do well during the week, and weekends are still a work in progress. I’ve cut my overall drinking by about 15% and maintained that over the past year. My mindset now is about curiosity and progress, not perfection.

Tools and People Who Made the Difference

The “delay tool” has been huge for me—especially on weekends when it’s easy to keep pouring. And the idea of mindset: that being alcohol-free today isn’t punishment, it’s a choice I get to make. The volunteers, staff, and board members at MM are some of the most inspiring people I’ve ever met.

Growth Beyond Drinking

MM gave me a sense of purpose I didn’t expect. In 2024, I started volunteering in marketing and eventually launched my own consulting business—with MM as my first client. I’ve met incredible people, built confidence, and learned to give myself grace—both in drinking and in life.

We consistently hear from members whose lives have been changed by MM. Their stories remind me that this work matters. That’s what keeps me showing up, giving back, and spreading the word.

If I could say one thing to someone just discovering MM, it would be that this is a journey, and it isn’t always linear. Give yourself grace and stick with it. When the time is right, the change will come.

Giving Back During Grateful Giving Month

I donate because MM truly changed my life. Supporting this community feels like saying thank you—for the connection, compassion, and progress it helped me find. This year, I’m personally matching up to $1,750 in donations from November 17–23. It’s my way of paying it forward.

Will you join me in showing your gratitude?

Donate once: https://moderation.org/donations
Or become a monthly supporter: https://moderation.org/donate-monthly

Your support keeps Moderation Management’s meetings, tools, and compassionate community available to everyone who needs them.

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Finding Freedom Through Moderation Management

Every story starts with a single spark. In our Grateful Giving 2025 initiative, meet the people who turned theirs into something brighter—and let their light inspire yours. Longtime member Ani shares how her experience with MM’s abstinence group changed everything.

Nearly three years ago, a dear friend encouraged me to check out Moderation Management. At the time, I was attempting to moderate my drinking in a way that ultimately backfired: I would quit for a period, only to slip back into cycles of compulsive bingeing. The comforting illusion that “I’m in control” no longer held, leading me to realize I needed help. To make matters worse, an unexpected health crisis exposed me to the harsh realities of alcohol’s deleterious impact, highlighting just how deeply it was poisoning my body in ways I had never previously imagined.

My friend promised I’d find a community that was welcoming and free of judgment—and she was absolutely right. From the first meeting, I felt surrounded by understanding and compassion.

My time in the MM abstinence group was brief, but transformative. Those weekly meetings became the catalyst that propelled me into a life without alcohol. While I believe moderation can be a healthy choice for many, I’ve discovered that living alcohol-free is what brings me true peace and clarity.

Every day, I’m deeply grateful to MM for guiding me toward this new chapter. I’ve finally gained independence from my “demons,” genuine happiness, and renewed hope. I’ve learned that alcohol doesn’t solve our problems—it hides them for a while, only to make them heavier to carry. Letting go of that illusion has been one of the most powerful choices of my life.

To anyone who feels trapped by drinking, I’d say this: trust yourself. Seek joy in what truly matters to you. Avoid the patterns and relationships that drain your energy. Alcohol can seem like an invaluable companion in hard times, but it’s just an illusion that offers you false comfort. When you finally step away from it, you discover who you really are—and that realization will eventually become the path to a beautiful new beginning.

This November, during Grateful Giving Month, I’m celebrating the community that helped me find the way back to my inner soul. I give back to Moderation Management with gratitude for the freedom, and loving peace, it finally gave me.

Will you join me in showing your gratitude?

Donate once: https://moderation.org/donations
Or become a monthly supporter: https://moderation.org/donate-monthly

Your support keeps Moderation Management’s meetings, tools, and compassionate community available to everyone who needs them.

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